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  • Writer's picture DaRhon Conner, D.R.E.

It is Not for Kings

3 Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings. 4 It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine; nor for princes strong drink: 5 Lest they drink, and forget the law, and pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted. 6 Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, and wine unto those that be of heavy hearts. 7 Let him drink, and forget his poverty, and remember his misery no more. (Proverbs 31:3-7 King James Version).

The first verse of Proverbs 31 tells us that the king’s mother is giving him words of wisdom. Indeed they are called prophecy, meaning they were inspired by GOD. This was also a burden that was on her. She was compelled to tell him these truths because she loved him and wanted him to be the best leader possible, as the kingdom rested on his shoulders.

Now, GOD is telling us because HE loves us, and wants us to be the best ambassadors that we can be, kingdom leaders spreading the gospel and giving light to a dark world. We are the hands and feet to HIS gospel, HIS living epistles as Paul says.

In verse three she tells the king not to give his strength to women. As king, no woman should have influence over him unless it's his wife. He rules the kingdom, therefore whatever these women may influence him to do would affect not just him, but the kingdom as well. Decisions have to be made in the best interest of the realm and not the ruler when you become a leader i.e. public servant.

Mom went on to say kings shouldn’t put their effort, time, or energy into anything that would destroy them. Verses four through seven lists some of those destructive activities. And please note, that while mom was speaking to her son, this applies to women who are in leadership as well. Don’t allow men to knock you off your square, ladies. Business first always.

Verse four tells us that leaders, those in charge, those who have influence over others, those who make decisions that affect not only themselves but a lot of other people also, it’s not for us to drink. Why?

Verse five explains that drinking will cause leaders to not do the right thing. Alcohol impairs judgment and our ability to make the best decisions regarding ourselves and others. We end up hurting instead of helping, binding instead of setting free, and setting free instead of binding. Alcohol makes us forget the law, the rules, and if any are in need of our help, or bring a just cause for us to remedy, we won’t be able to help because of the corruption and twisting of the truth that comes with drinking.

Verses six and seven ask us a question. Are we ready to die? Are we dying? Are we ready to perish, to throw our lives away? Are we ready to lose ourselves and wander from the path of righteousness? Do we have heavy hearts? Are we bitter, in deep anguish, sadness, or despair?

This is who strong drink is for, so they can forget what’s going wrong in their lives, what is lacking, and remember their pain no more. Alcohol is a deadly distraction. It’s poison, and it slowly kills us. It’s for those who are already dead, dying, or have given up all hope. I’m still in the book, family.

Remember, this is for a very specific audience, the king. His mom was telling him that he needed to be in his right mind in order to rule the people correctly.

What about the person who is alone, who has no one, who’s responsible for no one? If we’re believers, then we have a burden, a responsibility to spread the gospel, make disciples, teach them the commands of Christ, and see that they are baptized in the name of the Father, of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit (Matthew 28:19-20).

So, even if we’re alone we still have a duty to be Christ’s ambassadors and minister His message of salvation to a lost world. No believer should feel useless or alone. We are part of the body of Christ which fills the planet. We have brothers and sisters around the world that we can connect with and further GOD’s mission and plans.

As believers, we shouldn’t feel that we need to drink to forget our troubles or that we're perishing. We can’t be perishing because Christ already saved us! We’ve already been set free. If we’re in pain, 2 Corinthians 12:9 tell us GOD’s grace is sufficient to get us through. That means we lean on GOD and not ourselves to get through the pain, and GOD will make a way. Cry out, scream, fall on your face before the LORD! Lay before HIS throne right in your bedroom, bow before HIM in your car, or wherever. Just get what you need from GOD. HE's waiting to give us all that we ask.

I’ve been there, and I know I’m not the only one reading this who can testify to GOD’s ability to deliver us out of all our troubles and give us the grace to endure in the meantime. How can I say that with such confidence? Because I'm still here to write this, and you're still here to read it.

Be encouraged, family! We shall not die, but live, and declare the works of the LORD (Psalm 118:17). We are alive for a purpose. You woke up today for a reason. You’re breathing right now because there’s something for you to do. We’re not just here to be here. We’re on assignment. We’re to declare the works of the LORD! We were saved so that we could spread this message of hope as GOD leads. Amen (it is so, may it be fulfilled).

How to be Saved

Romans 10: 9-13

That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. 10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. 11 For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed. 12 For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him. 13 For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved (KJV).

9 If you openly declare that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For it is by believing in your heart that you are made right with God, and it is by openly declaring your faith that you are saved. 11 As the Scriptures tell us, “Anyone who trusts in him will never be disgraced.” 12 Jew and Gentile are the same in this respect. They have the same Lord, who gives generously to all who call on him. 13 For “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved” (NLT).

Say the welcoming word to God—“Jesus is my Master”—embracing, body and soul, God’s work of doing in us what he did in raising Jesus from the dead. That’s it. You’re not “doing” anything; you’re simply calling out to God, trusting him to do it for you. That’s salvation. With your whole being you embrace God setting things right, and then you say it, right out loud: “God has set everything right between him and me!” 11-13 Scripture reassures us, “No one who trusts God like this—heart and soul—will ever regret it.” It’s exactly the same no matter what a person’s religious background may be: the same God for all of us, acting the same incredibly generous way to everyone who calls out for help. “Everyone who calls, ‘Help, God!’ gets help. (MSG).

Romans 5:8

8 But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. (KJV)

8 But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners. (NLT)

It is your belief that saves you, family. If you believe, you will speak what you believe and not be ashamed or embarrassed to do so, whether you are alone or among others. Simply talk to GOD. Say aloud to God:

“I confess all my sin known and unknown, and ask You, GOD, to forgive me. I believe Jesus was born of a virgin, crucified, died for my sins, and rose from the dead. Jesus, come into my heart and make me new in You. Save me, Lord! Jesus, you are Lord. Be Lord over my life. Thank You, GOD for Your forgiveness. Thank You, Jesus, for making me Your own. Amen.”

You are now saved. You may not feel different or you may. Just know that the internal change is taking place once you uttered that prayer in faith. Day by day, you will begin to be transformed into whom GOD wants and created you to be. You will care more about the things of GOD than your own personal desires, and you will want to share the word of GOD when you have the opportunity. Begin to read your bible daily, and learn about GOD's will for your life. If you are not already a member of a local church, I encourage you to pray and allow GOD to guide you to the right fellowship for you. The pastor will help you grow in your gifts and talents so that you can begin to use them for GOD’s glory, and you and the other members will encourage and help each other along this journey with GOD.

The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you all. Amen.

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